Comments on: Evil, who? http://moonpointer.com/new/2009/10/evil-who/ Mon, 21 May 2012 09:12:45 +0800 hourly 1 By: jilexin http://moonpointer.com/new/2009/10/evil-who/comment-page-1/#comment-1572 jilexin Tue, 20 Oct 2009 05:39:56 +0000 http://moonpointer.com/new/?p=3996#comment-1572 I agree strongly with many points discussed in this post. However, I also come to the realisation that because there is ego, hence there is the practical, if not urgent need to practise selfless love. Without the contrast put forward by the our egoistic behaviour, there would be no term or label called selfless love, and no need to exhort anyone to practise selfless love since ego doesn't exist in any form for everyone in the first place. Because no human being is born without a single ounce of ego in him or her, practising selfless love becomes a worthy goal to aspire to when one truly understands and believes wholeheartedly in its benefits, especially for those who has experienced some kind of suffering or perpetual dissatisfaction from any kind of human relationships. True compassion means not just wishing the one who has hurt you to be just well and happy; but willing to stay in constant contact with him or her; to spend whatever time available to care for him or her; to trust even when he or she cannot be trusted. To chase after even when they run away. For some will be touched by your perseverance, sincerity and compassion. However, there are many Buddhists who use the term or concept of 'detachment' or 'going with the flow' (sui yuan) to avoid further contact with the other person, to wait for the other person to come to you, since some of them have chosen to leave the relationship. This is, in my opinion, misinterpreting the true meaning of going with the flow or detachment, but using that label or concept as a veil to disguise their reluctance; to avoid the deeper cultivation of greater compassion. That to me, is something regrettable. I say this of myself too. I can empathise with the guy in the example. I wouldn't say all girls are evil, but I would say so far the girls I have met aren't good at nature. But if he could practise self-reflection and realise that he himself is not perfect too, he would realise that the only thing left to do is continue improving on his good personality traits and hope for the best in terms of meeting girls who are truly good at heart. I agree strongly with many points discussed in this post.

However, I also come to the realisation that because there is ego, hence there is the practical, if not urgent need to practise selfless love. Without the contrast put forward by the our egoistic behaviour, there would be no term or label called selfless love, and no need to exhort anyone to practise selfless love since ego doesn’t exist in any form for everyone in the first place.

Because no human being is born without a single ounce of ego in him or her, practising selfless love becomes a worthy goal to aspire to when one truly understands and believes wholeheartedly in its benefits, especially for those who has experienced some kind of suffering or perpetual dissatisfaction from any kind of human relationships.

True compassion means not just wishing the one who has hurt you to be just well and happy; but willing to stay in constant contact with him or her; to spend whatever time available to care for him or her; to trust even when he or she cannot be trusted. To chase after even when they run away. For some will be touched by your perseverance, sincerity and compassion.

However, there are many Buddhists who use the term or concept of ‘detachment’ or ‘going with the flow’ (sui yuan) to avoid further contact with the other person, to wait for the other person to come to you, since some of them have chosen to leave the relationship.

This is, in my opinion, misinterpreting the true meaning of going with the flow or detachment, but using that label or concept as a veil to disguise their reluctance; to avoid the deeper cultivation of greater compassion. That to me, is something regrettable. I say this of myself too.

I can empathise with the guy in the example. I wouldn’t say all girls are evil, but I would say so far the girls I have met aren’t good at nature. But if he could practise self-reflection and realise that he himself is not perfect too, he would realise that the only thing left to do is continue improving on his good personality traits and hope for the best in terms of meeting girls who are truly good at heart.

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