Ray: What’s the best way to attain inner peace despite being in the midst of those who have a blaming attitude? Shian: Why not take it a case at a time? E.g. Blaming session #1 means opportunity #1 to explain why the blaming is not needed. If you do it long enough without being worked [...]

When I was younger and more foolish, I used to avoid confrontation because I would react in anger. When I became older and wiser, I still avoid confrontation because I knew anger wasn’t needed. Confrontation won’t do, if it is to choose to confront angrily. Emotional confrontation makes matters murkier. Clarification will do, if it [...]

A Tit for a Tat (40) Tit: Why are you angry at me? Tat: I’m not angry! Tit: You sound angry. Tat: I was just talking loudly! Tit: Those who are angry talk loudly. Tat: I said I was just talking loudly! Tit: How do I know if you are angry or just talking loudly? [...]

A Tit for a Tat (36) Tit: He agitated me! Tat: How? Tit: By being agitated at me! Tat: For? Tit: Something unfounded! Tat: If so, your agitation at his unfounded agitation is doubly unfounded! Next aT4aT: http://moonpointer.com/new/2009/07/why-did-you-become Previous aT4aT: http://moonpointer.com/new/2009/07/were-all-mental

Is one who suffers fools gladly one who is gladly a fool? Q:  What if someone is unreasonable? Should we suffer fools gladly? Should we speak up? I spoke up once but was disturbed that it displeased the person, while there was some anger in me. After that, I simply did things my way, against [...]

While on a cab with two colleagues to AMK Hub after today’s Pure Land class, we were chatting among ourselves when the cabbie suddenly gestured violently at the driver of the car that he drew up to. He wound down his window, yelling while pointing to the front – ‘It’s him! Not me!’ We weren’t [...]

‘Scold! Scold! Scold!’ Listen… listen… listen… Gosh! He’s right! May I accept the fault-finding graciously. No need to get mad myself. ‘Scold! Scold! Scold!’ Listen… listen… listen… Gosh! He’s wrong! May I clarify the misunderstanding graciously. No need to get mad myself.

If you are deluded that the deluded are so, are you not similar? – Stonepeace When you are petty towards the petty just because they are petty towards you, how are you different from them? When you are angry towards the angry just because they are angry towards you, how are you different from them? [...]

A toddler nephew is undergoing a strange phase of growing up. Barely a month ago, his baby sister was born. Suddenly, his behaviour became a little incomprehensibly moody and anger-prone… even to himself! He seemed to experience a form of existential anguish that he couldn’t articulate with his limited vocabulary. When asked ‘Are you alright?’, [...]

  I just returned from hosting an encore screening session of the multiple-award winning documentary ‘Buddha’s Lost Children’. (The review link is below.) During the discussion session, a lady remarked that it was somewhat disturbing that the abbot featured in the film seemed angry at times, during his teaching sessions. I replied that as I [...]