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Met up with a rather old friend last night for dinner and chat. As he’s between jobs and since it’s the holiday season, he’s taking his time to text and call up friends individually to catch up with them. He lamented that when he contacted them, most of them would exclaim that they too had thought of meeting up some time. To that, he would respond along the line that… ‘Nope… some time is too vague… it would most likely be procrastinated indefinitely. Let’s fix a time now!’<\/p>\n
He remarked that he had attended a few wakes recently, and felt that life is too unpredictable not to express concern in time. He wondered why was it that he’s usually the one who calls up old friends, while they are kind of passively reactive. He wasn’t sure if there was something wrong about him. I asked, ‘Imagine himself on your deathbed… Would you regret not meeting certain people one last time?’ If there is a long list of folks on his mind, chances are that his attachment to them is pretty strong… too strong.\u00a0I added that most friends tend to become super busy once they get hitched and have kids. It’s natural that the focus of attention is shifted from friends to family. Yup, he’s single.<\/p>\n
Maybe I was a little guilty for not taking the initiative to re-connect with him, plus too lazy to update him on the complex changes in my life. Instead, I asked tons of questions about what’s happening in his life, and just listened… and quizzed him further. Here’s the ironic part. He called me to catch up with me, but I didn’t leave him enough time to ask about what’s up in my life. It turned out to be me catching up with him instead. And the funny thing is, I don’t think he noticed this.<\/p>\n
I’m this kind of friend… ghost-like, hard to fathom, there but ‘not there’. Reminds me of my teenage days, when I once helped a friend pen a love letter for his ‘crushee’. Quite happy with that proposed on paper, he relaxed and slipped into a nap. I then crept out of his house and cycled home… with a grin of gladness… for having been there for him, for having been helpful… I hope!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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