{"id":8868,"date":"2011-03-14T13:03:10","date_gmt":"2011-03-14T05:03:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/moonpointer.com\/new\/?p=8868"},"modified":"2011-03-14T13:42:37","modified_gmt":"2011-03-14T05:42:37","slug":"8868","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/moonpointer.com\/new\/2011\/03\/8868\/","title":{"rendered":"The Wedding Koan"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"color: #993300;\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-8875\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/moonpointer.com\/new\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/03\/115.jpg?resize=212%2C238\" alt=\"\" width=\"212\" height=\"238\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/moonpointer.com\/new\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/03\/115.jpg?w=212&amp;ssl=1 212w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/moonpointer.com\/new\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/03\/115.jpg?resize=86%2C96&amp;ssl=1 86w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 212px) 100vw, 212px\" \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #993300;\"><em>From Adrian Tomine&#8217;s &#8216;Scenes from an Impending Marriage&#8217; is this dialogue:<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Guy: <\/strong>(About whether to invite someone just because one was once invited) Come on! We&#8217;ve gotta break this cycle of endless obligation and reciprocity!<br \/>\n<strong>Gal:<\/strong> I know you find this hard to believe, but a lot of people actually enjoy going to weddings\u2026 You need to stop approaching this like you&#8217;re doing people a favor by not inviting them.<br \/>\n<strong>Guy: <\/strong>Okay, but I also think you should&#8217;t use this as an opportunity to make amends or re-connect with everyone you&#8217;ve ever known.<\/p>\n<p>Should we use weddings as a ritual to reconcile?<br \/>\nWhat if those who feel obliged to come feel tormented instead?<br \/>\nShould we use weddings as a ritual to divide?<br \/>\nWhat if those who feel they should be invited feel indignation?<\/p>\n<p>Weddings are a worldly koan I think!<br \/>\nNot easy to keep really simple.<br \/>\nNot easy to make complex too.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>From Adrian Tomine&#8217;s &#8216;Scenes from an Impending Marriage&#8217; is this dialogue: Guy: (About whether to invite someone just because one&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[241],"tags":[321,111],"class_list":["post-8868","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-comics","tag-koan","tag-perception","wpcat-241-id"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/moonpointer.com\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8868","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/moonpointer.com\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/moonpointer.com\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/moonpointer.com\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/moonpointer.com\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8868"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/moonpointer.com\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8868\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/moonpointer.com\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8868"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/moonpointer.com\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8868"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/moonpointer.com\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8868"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}