He described his plight
to be a hungry man,
who has no food at home,
yet unable to eat outside.
He was describing his situation
of often being with sexual need,
while his wife was uninterested,
while he should not fulfill it with anyone else.
Sounds like an apt analogy,
but it is not,
because lust is not a need like food,
because lust is a want that can be tamed.
If sex is a need,
the Buddha would have died from being celibate,
the monastics would have died from deprivation,
the sex-starved rapists would be pardoned!
He should temper his lust.
He should not think sex is a must.
His contentment and peace of mind is in his control.
He should focus more on spirituality instead.
Just for sharing. My friend says one of the reasons men have extra-marital affairs is because their wives cannot satisfy their ‘needs’. Of course, it is an excuse for some people. I understand that some men and women have very high ‘needs’. I suppose everyone is unique.
Try channeling the high energy to wholesome activities like exercise, voluntary work, charitable causes, self improvement classes etc. Stay away from questionable media that ‘poisons’ and guard the mind at all times. :ninja:
色å—头上一把刀. This chinese saying which implies that the chinese character “sex” comes with a sword on it is not without rhyme or reason. Sex seems to make the world go round and people go gaga as well. How many are not a victim to it and be burnt by it as casual sex land them in dire situation of sexual diseases and Yama seems to be closer to us suddenly. How many immature teenagers becos of sexual desires end in abortion making them murderers before they can even try becoming good parents to begin with. How many sad stories of war when soldiers who invade us rob our land and women and sexually violate them? It is also the very reason when we are soldiers, one of the reason we need to defend our country is becos our enemy will come and rape our wife, daughters and sisters. Because of our inability to transcend our sexual urges, as we enter the bardo stage, once again sexual desires bind us to the wheel of samsara. The degree of our sexual desires has an important effect to what we will be born as. If watching a dog copulate we will even find arousal, it is little wonder why some sentient beings would bind themselves to the womb of an animal and be reborn as one. If u think and act like an animal. One will likely be one. The rest will be a new story in a new life and body.  Â
A recent BBC reported about 7,000 babies stillborn every day worldwide. This is due to the living conditions found in developing countries. As human progresses from developing countries to developed countries which managed to reduce the statistics of stillborns, we have another problem in place of it’s absence. Maybe if BBC reports on the number of abortions that take place daily worldwide from another angle. I am sure we will have another shocking figure. To be born as a human in our next life is becoming more and more difficult. From abortion, stillborn and declining populations, the portal of entry into human realms become lesser and more merits would be required as the number of confounding obstacles amplify. Indeed may we aspire to be reborn in amitabha pureland and via the womb of the 9 qualities lotus, may we meet the Amitabha Buddha as the lotus blossoms.