Question: I’m impatient who say ‘nonsense’ as I have a strong sense of ‘right’ and ‘wrong’.
Answer: If you know what is right, then all the more you should be patient, so as to deliver the message clearly. Often, we we deliver a message with impatience, it is less well received, as the listener might feel hurt, offended or turned off. If the person is deliberately wrong, patience is still needed to show the person why he or she shouldn’t say non-truths. Remembering that the person needs compassion and wisdom to realise his or her mistake can be helpful.
Answer: Anger arises from clinging to a view too tightly. Even if the view clung to is right, to cling to it to the extent that it causes us and/or others suffering makes it not so right in the moment. For example, the Buddha, while teaching, expresses right views, but he does not cling to them such that when someone disagrees with him he becomes angry. Abiding in loving-kindness for oneself and others helps to keep anger at bay. If the person does not refuse to talk ‘nonsense’, you can just stop listening to the person. There’s no need to be impatient. When the person knows you are not listening, the person will usually stop. You can put on earphones to show you are not listening – even if you are not really listening to anything! But before that, it is important to let the person know why his/her arguments are faulty.