A surprise email arrived on a mediation case between two people I helped some time ago. Here is my abridged reply:
My apologies for any perceived and actual misgivings from my side. Reflecting on this, I sincerely believe I did the best I could back then to help, foolish and inadequate as I surely was. I remember the discussion was in good spirit from your side too. There was ample opportunity for raising any matters of concern.
Unfortunately, it turns out that there is resentment nursed all along on your side, that was not expressed. I wish you were more forthright instead back then, with open communication, to save yourself from needless suffering. This is part of proper and deep communication.
I sincerely hope you remember her kindness, over her misgivings. People are always more kind to us than we tend to remember or even know. Please see this article: http://thedailyenlightenment.
There are many invisible ‘Bodhisattvas’ in our lives doing their best for us, and the ones most misunderstood are the ones we assume to simply be inadequate people around us, even if they are indeed still inadequate. May we be better Bodhisattvas to one another. May all be well and happy always. Amituofo