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I agree with the points raised in this post. Logical and practical.
I had and are still asking similar questions like the lady in the post.
Why wait for a high note? How high and how long do you need or want it to be before you can start to realise the job environment is or is becoming unhealthy for your personal development?
There are so many views on such career decisions. But most of them that I have heard steer towards blaming you for being inflexible, stubborn, egoistic, reckless..etc.
If I had such a friend who shares with me the above career decision, I would say the following:
Only you know what’s best for you. As you are the only one responsible for your own job satisfaction and financial stability.
I can only hope you have made the right decision. As a friend I can only remind you to think more carefully about inherent challenges that you had experienced in your previous company and that these might still occur when you join a new one. Be prepared to find ways on how to handle them to your satisfaction and comfort.
Hopefully all of us can one day finally break free from the samsara of attachment, aversion and delusion, as quickly as we can, but at our own pace.
This post is awesome! I have a history of going through these “non-progressive cycles” to the extreme. I think it’s normal, but man… I get to the point where I intensely want to QUIT and am just afraid to because I hope things would get better! In one case, I wanted to quit an academic competition because I didn’t like the coach at all and wanted to petition to get our old coach back. And another guy wanted to quit with me. But we both ended up staying, partly because the team begged us to. Instead of being leaders in our decision to quit, we became followers of the team (and we both were the highest scoring team members).
But, y’know, I think that in these decisions you want both ways because both have good in them… so, no matter what happens, you probably find looking back that you gained something either way. I think the hard part is the torture it does to you to be indecisive, the confusion it creates… the samsara of it all. Recently I found myself wanting OUT of a certain relationship with someone, but also not wanting 100% out. What I ended up doing was saying “good-bye, for now,” but not “forever.” And I actually think that was the right decision. It helped me get out of the non-progressive cycle without completely severing the tie, and my mind eventually was freed. Now I want us to be friends again. But, unfortunately, jobs and academic competitions don’t work that way.. they’re more concrete.
Looks like in a way, you helped to coach the team too, by not leaving, by supporting it.
I think any goodbyes are always only for now. It’s impossible to cut off affinities instantly. Even ill affinities are affinities… that we can make better… later, if not now.
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I wasn’t really coaching the team because I didn’t agree with my own decision to stay. It didn’t feel right, and the next year around, I ended up quitting, returning at the coach’s request, and finally getting kicked off. Haha! I was glad to be off, like I would’ve probably been the previous year, at least to have agreed with my own actions.
Well-said about good-byes. 🙂
Found a great blog post called Tolerance Is Resistance to Love which talks about commitment to quitting: http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2008/07/tolerance-is-resistance-to-love/
hihi brothers and sisters 🙂
Felt this article was similar to a blog entry I just wrote in Chinese. Please feel free to view the link below: http://tinyurl.com/kv3a65
May you stay well and at peace
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Hi, methinks what matters when climbing any ladder, corporate or otherwise, is why one wants to go higher; what one wants to do when higher. It’s good to be in a higher powerful position to be able to help more people. The motivation matters the most. But the journey up has to be mindful, lest one loses one’s integrity and peace of mind in the process. But for the rest of us (me too) not ready for such a struggle, it’s okay to just do the best in our selected vocation.
;))