Y: I need to minimise my contact with him… to save my sanity, preserve myself, to prevent good vibes from being drained away for nothing and save my good energy for more constructive work.
V: Hey, don’t be disheartened… What I do is whenever I do good, I dedicate the goodness to my family, hoping that it will transform their minds to goodness. You could try, I do see results, though it’s gradual.
S: Here’s a simple way to dedicate merits:
May the good I have done today,
be shared with all beings.
May all beings be well and happy.
May these merits also benefit him.
May he become kinder and wiser.
It’s important not to, even in your mind, alienate him – because this kind of lessens your karmic affinity with him. What needed is gentle transformation of the negativity in the affinity.
Thank you. This is a timely reminder.