Recently, when I pay attention to the lyrics of love songs, I discover many logical errors in them. The chorus of James Blunt’s ‘Goodbye My Lover’ goes like this:
Goodbye my lover.
Goodbye my friend.
You have been the one.
You have been the one for me.
But if someone was so seriously ‘the one’, that as the rest of the song sings, who he swears he loves, who he is addicted to, who changed his life and goals, who he cannot live without… why then is it sung that she ‘have been the one’, which means she is no longer ‘the one’? Even if death does them apart, ‘the one’ will always be ‘the one’. Even death is no goodbye in terms of commitment?
It is unnerving, when I imagine how many ‘the ones’ we have professed to have had in so many past lives, in samsarically imperfect relationships, whom we are actually fickle over from life to life, and even within one lifetime. Ironically, in this context, the line, ‘You have been the one’ takes on a new meaning. Maybe the one you are heartbroken over is the ‘same one’ in a past life! How many more cycles do we need? It is possible to have the same lover for many lifetimes, but does the togetherness lead deeper into Samsara, or does it lead out – as a spiritual partnership?
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