From the movie, ‘An Education’:
Jenny: David, if tomorrow night does happen, it’s only ever going to happen once.
David: Why will it only ever happen once?
Jenny: Because the first time can only ever happen once.
(She loses her virginity to him later.)
David: It wasn’t too uncomfortable?
Jenny: Not after the first bit. It’s funny though, isn’t it? All that poetry and all those songs about something that lasts no time at all.
David: Yeah.
Not that abstention from sex is useless, as it is in fact very useful if one wishes to cultivate deeper physical and mental contentment, but virginity itself is a strangely overrated concept. This is somewhat the Buddhist perspective too, albeit indirectly, as the Buddha never praised it as a prize to cling on to, to be bashful of losing. The truth is, most, if not all of us, have already lost it countless times in our past lives.
Virginity is probably overrated partly because sex itself is overrated. As Jenny realised, the ‘bliss’ from it is fleeting in nature, unsubstantial despite all the high expectations and great anticipations prior. Virgin sex is interestingly usually both pain and pleasure, the flavour of Dukkha (dissatisfaction). Don’t mistaken this article to mean promiscuity is alright though, as the third precept of abstaining from sexual misconduct should be upheld.